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So Far So Good Book Tour with Justyn Credible

So happy to have Justyn Credible stop by on her book tour to visit with me. I love books and bring you the good ones is what I like to do.  So, pull up a chair, get your cup of coffee (or tea) and enjoy the next few minutes with me.



Q. What is the first book that made you cry?
  A: Of Mice and Men.  Lennie reminds me of a sister.  She was mentally challenged and the only thing that she ever wanted to do that made her happy was draw.  When I finished Of Mice and Men I read all the other Steinbeck books.  I have never been able to watch a play production or a movie of Steinbeck’s.  His writing was so beautiful that I think watching a movie or play would almost ruin it or take something away.

Q.  Have you ever gotten reader’s block?
A: I am not sure what reader’s block is.  My reading interests cover a wide range from cookbooks, mysteries, biographies, etc., having reader’s block has never been a problem.  I don’t experience writer’s block since I am not creating stories.  My stories come from my daily journal of what has occurred that day, perhaps someone that I met, a good and/or bad experience, etc.

Q. How did publishing your first book change your process of writing?
A:  Since I am telling stories from my day to day life, writing them down isn’t any different than before.  I think I am starting to get a good sense of who my audience might be and sometimes I question whether something that I have logged into my journal would be good story material. 

Q.  How do you select the names of your characters?
A: That was easy. Rhonda works as a legal secretary.  She is pulled in all directions from the moment she enters her office in the morning.  The ringtone to her phone is “Help Me Rhonda.”  Clients, court staff, attorneys all demand constant attention even before she can take her coat off.  If Rhonda were a coffee drinker she would be eating coffee out of the jar.  It’s not just her work people but people outside the office.  They gravitate to Rhonda.  Her boss calls them her broken winged friends.  The last name Rhorer I came up with because since Rhonda has trouble saying her “Rs”, no one ever understands what her last name is, nor is there anything that rhymes with Rhorer.  Maybe if there is a sequence Rhonda will have a name change.

Q.  What were you like at school?
A: To say I was a wallflower would be an understatement.  No one knew I existed.  I hid out in the library over the lunch hour.  The whole time I was in high school I never saw the cafeteria.  I would get dressed in the bathroom for gym class because I was flat chested and didn’t own a bra.  My panties, “step-ins” as my southern mother called them were not the cutesy flowered or colored briefs.  Gym was twice a week and for every one of those weeks throughout each year of gym I would say that I was on my period to avoid getting naked in front of everyone to take a shower.  One year the gym teacher made me stand in front of the whole gym class along with nine other girls for the final.  The last question on the test was to write down the names of the girls standing.

Socially I was bullied, called dogface among other things.  I had no friends, I hated Friday afternoons when everyone would go to the gym, sit with their friends at the pep rally.  I had no one to get peppy with and went to the library.

Academically, my mother instructed the guidance counselor to sign me up for all the generic classes, general science, general math, etc. and above all else to take typing.  Typing would be the key to my education.  In music class, I was told that I only had one note and to just pretend that I was singing.  I had a sister two grades ahead.  She was the valedictorian of her class.  Occasionally, I would have a teacher that had taught my sister and for the first hour of the first day of that class, the teacher would be excited thinking that I had my sister’s intellect.  It was always humiliating when reality sunk in, sometimes more for the teacher than for me.  Gym was especially tough.  An example of that was the teacher asking me to get on the trampoline with people gathered around and then I almost fell off the trampoline, well you get the idea.  I was always the cheese, standing alone, the last to be picked for a team, class project, discussion groups, dance partner, etc.  My sister didn’t want me on her team as well.  Report cards came out every six weeks and mine usually read something like: messy, careless, doesn’t work well with others, etc.

Q. Were you good at English? or what academic subject?
A:  Horrible, horrible, horrible.  English, literature, short story writing, anything related in that area was not on my radar.  I could never comprehend the true meaning of the story that I was reading.  When it came time to poetry I secretly wished I could get sick and skip it altogether.  Taking English in college was a disaster.  My first paper was returned ungraded with the notation, I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt THIS TIME.  “Where did you go to school?”

For some unknown reason, I was the teacher’s pet in history.  Someone had taken an interest in me and I wanted to do well in his class and I did.  I loved geography and did well in that class because the teacher was cute and like the rest of the female students I had a crush on him.  Years later I would name my son after him.  The civic teacher was amazing.  He had been everywhere and had wonderful stories regarding his adventures and was constantly inventing things.  I pushed myself to do well in his class.

If it weren’t for doing well in those classes I probably would not have been admitted into college.

While in college I discovered that I was good at languages.  I think probably because for me it was a matter of memorization (which I do have a good memory) and being able to discipline myself and because everything was black and white.  There were no theories to spend hours at the coffee shop to discuss what appeared to me to be the most boring topic in the world.

Q. What are your ambitions for your writing career?
A: Right now I would like to see So Far So Good do well.  The response to my book has been good.  I am thinking that maybe I should start a blog.

Q.  Which actor/actress would you like to see playing the lead character from your most recent book?
A: In a heartbeat, I would choose a young Laurie Metcalf or Sissy Spacek.  The only way that either of these women could play the part now would be if an older Rhonda is reflecting back on her life.  As far as someone to play a younger Rhonda I would need to give that more thought.

Q.  What are you working on at the minute?
A: I have been asked by some of the readers for a sequence to the Rhonda story.  I thought about a story on her sisters or their mother.  What I started working on when I finished Rhonda was a story about vacations whether it be traveling in an almost broken down beat up car with too many people in it along with a dog and trying to make it on a shoestring budget, or getting pampered and flying first class to Europe. This led me down the path of decision making and how sometimes just one decision can be a life changer. I stopped with those stories because I found myself being judgmental and maybe going a bit too far. Then I found myself going back to writing stories about my faith so who knows.  Maybe I can tie this all together.  For me that’s the hard part, putting all the stories together and making it work. 

Q  What is your message to aspiring writers/ storytellers?

A: I think of myself as an aspiring storyteller but if someone had told me that someday I would be a published author, I would have laughed.  That would have been the same as saying, “hey you are going to be a ballerina someday.”  Rhonda would say, “I have this God-given talent of being able to tell stories that people seem to enjoy that has always been here but because I’m a late bloomer I just didn’t realize it.”  That being said, take what you have and this could be true for anything, even if it is just a little bit of something and go with.”  Don’t be like an attorney that Ronda once knew.  He would walk around with a Thesaurus looking up big words to put in his pleadings and no one, especially him, knew what they meant.  Write or tell what you know.  Everybody has their own unique story.  Try to make every sentence important.  Finally, more importantly, trust and have faith that God will help you.  A true believer can ask him anything, but you have to talk to him.




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If you missed it, here is my podcast with her back in October.


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What makes 11for10.com different from other Dollar Stores?


First, the obvious difference between 11for10.com and most other Dollar Stores is the fact that 11for10.com is the only exclusively Online One Dollar Store. At this time there's only a few stores that are even considered Online Dollar Stores, and they usually sell products for $10 and under. Yes, as far as concept, they're similar to one of the most popular Offline One Dollar Stores; however, selling Online is totally different from the traditional Dollar Store model, and even traditional Dollar Stores have consolidated so much there's very little competition as a whole. Recently there's been a lot of Online noise regarding a company that entered the Exclusively Online Dollar Store sector mostly selling products from $2 to $10, they might be a cool company but they are not anything like 11for10.com.


Besides all the obvious stuff, what differentiates 11for10.com the most is the fact that they offer a limited selection including between 200 and 500 One Dollar Deals at a time, and when you buy 10 items for $1.00 each, you will receive the 11th item Free automatically. At 11for10.com they focus on the keyword "Deals" they don't want to offer just anything as One Dollar Products they want to offer One Dollar Products for a deal. That being said 11for10.com tries to include as many Name Brand and licensed products as we can at a time. As a matter of fact, so many of their offers are such a good deal they said their best customers by far are resellers that buy from them and resell Online and Offline. At first the fact that so many Resellers were buying from them bothered their Management; however, now they're a little more comfortable with it, and in some ways, they're trying to embrace it. Offering the Best Deals on the entire internet was their goal from the very beginning and is still true today. So, they consider themselves a Premium Exclusively Online One Dollar Store and with the Best Deals Online, not the most, the Best! Yes, many people ask them almost daily how in the world can you make money selling quality merchandise for only $1.00 each, and the answer is still the same. It is very difficult but it works based on volume. They sacrifice some profit to give quality $1.00 deals to the public in exchange for doing a higher volume of business with their customers. They even offer some products well below our cost from time to time to show their customers how much they appreciate them.



A Fun Book - Fredrick The Butterfly by Karen Ann Smythe



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Do you think someone could be a writer if they don’t feel emotions strongly?  Yes,  because I do not think all Writing comes from emotions. Writing can come from Knowledge, True Life experiences or made up fantasies or factual information.                                   

Fredrick the Butterfly by [Smythe, Karen Ann]
What other authors are you friends with, and how do they help you become a better writer? I have met other Authors. Did not have help from anyone in writing my books. My First Book Fredrick The Butterfly (Won Award) is a True Life experience! I have been in the movie business -so maybe reading so many scripts helped?                       

Do you want each book to stand on its own or are you trying to build a body of work with connections between each book?  Each book does stand on its own!  My 1st book  Fredrick The Butterfly (Won an Award) is a True Story + Loved!  Have emails from parents that since heir children received Fredrick-they want it read to them Every Night! Plus one little girl Sleeps + Hugs Fredrick The Butterfly!  Which makes me feel Great because Fredrick tells the true story Plus also has Sensational messages “it is Fun to help people” - “the Ocean is alive, We are alive + that is Great!  “You can give yourself a Hug” + more. My second book Amazing Adventures of Fredrick The Butterfly Plus Karen & Malibu Kool Kat!  Started because lots of people said that (after telling them some of my True Life stories) - to write an Autobiography...So I thought it would be Fun to do that by adding  Fredrick + my real life rescue cat Malibu Kool Kat with me. Ha!                                                                             


If you could tell your younger writing self anything , what would it be?  Actually, did not write when younger!  Liked to draw + sometimes write a little poetry. Because of the True Experiences I have had + I felt it was important to share these stories for other people to maybe gain insight, Enjoy + believe in themselves + other things.  I had Fun writing my books + People of all ages Love Them!                                                                         

How did Writing your first book change your process of writing?  Kept writing notes down!  Even on the back of grocery bags in the car-if I thought of a better way to word something or another idea of something that I thought people would Enjoy!          


What was the best money you spent as a writer?   Best money I spent was paying Christina Hicks Creative to do my Layout Design + She also knew The Artist (who I guided)                                                               

What Authors did you dislike at first but grew into?  Do not read violent movies or books like that.  I always Loved reading + finding Books to read to my 2 Daughters- when they were growing up! Had lots of Fun doing that + So did they!                         


What does Literary Success mean to you?  Think I have Literary success now!  It means that people Love my books + are finding out about them....It is Fun to share them + donate some + I get to have book signings + interact with all kinds of people!  It is a new World to me!          
  
What is the best way to market your books? Social Media, Articles in newspapers ..Letting people know..also thru friends + Family.  It has been said that everyone has a book in them to write!!!                                                                              

What kind of research do you do, and how long do you spend researching before beginning a book?  Did not do any research at all.  My books are part of me + True Life experiences....My Heart, thoughts, experiences + Love are in both of my books!                                                                              


Do you view writing as a spiritual practice?  I am a Spiritual Person!  Do not really consider writing as a spiritual practice- maybe it is!   Thank You Very Much for this Interview.. ❤️ Both Of my Books are on Amazon!   Next Goal is to turn them into a Movie or TV show!!!


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About the Author
Karen Ann Smythe (center) with her daughters Victoria Turner (left) and Julia Turner (right)



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Malibu resident Karen Ann Smythe recently published the children’s book “Amazing Adventures of Fredrick the Butterfly Plus Karen & Malibu Kool Kate.” 

The story follows Karen and her two friends, Fredrick and Malibu Kool Kat, on an adventure that takes them to places like New York City and a tropical island. The characters and events are loosely based on Smythe’s life experiences. 

Her first book, “Fredrick the Butterfly,” won an award in the Fourth Annual Beverly Hills Book Awards in the children’s nonfiction category. 


Available on Amazon.

Are You Feeding Your Narcissist?

Care and Feeding of your Narcissist

It’s more than just excessive self-esteem



Since the 1970s, “self-esteem” has been a buzzword among parents, teachers, and psychologists alike. Parents are told that they need to instill self-esteem in their children if they want them to grow up to be happy and productive adults. Educators believe that self-esteem is the key to academic success, so they twist criticism into praise lest they bruise little Billie’s budding sense of self-worth. Furthermore, therapists and life coaches alike advise their clients with low self-esteem to just fake it till they make it, as if a sense of self-worth comes from within and rather than from without.
Plenty of research shows there’s a relationship between self-esteem and subjective well-being, or general sense of happiness in life. Hence the drive to build self-esteem in the rising generation. While conceding that the intentions are good, Dutch psychologists Eddie Brummelman, Sander Thomaes, and Constantine Sedikides argue that the methods we often use to raise self-esteem may be creating a generation of monsters.
Among personality psychologists, there’s a longstanding debate about whether personality is stable or changes over time. Some psychologists claim that personality traits are genetic and hence present at birth. We can call this the “solid” model—your personality may get nicked and dented as you go through life, but it keeps its overall shape. Other psychologists claim that your personalities are shaped by your experiences. We can call this the “fluid” model, since your personality molds itself to varying circumstances throughout the lifespan.
A third group of psychologists take a middle position. They maintain that personality is fluid in childhood but sets by adolescence or early adulthood. We can call this the “jello” model of personality. If you believe that the way people behave as adults depends on how they were raised as children, then you subscribe to the “jello” model. (Otherwise, you’d blame behavior on either genes or the current situation.)
Brummelman and his colleagues concede that there is some evidence for a genetic component to both self-esteem and narcissism. However, they also argue that the most important factor lies in childhood interactions with parents, teachers, and other significant adults. Although self-esteem and narcissism have some similar features, the researchers argue that they’re fundamentally different. Hence, in trying to instill self-esteem in our youth, we may be encouraging narcissistic tendencies instead.
The received wisdom is that narcissism is just exaggerated self-esteem, but the researchers argue that the difference is far more than one of degree. Both self-esteem and narcissism are based on people’s perceptions of how others evaluate them. However, narcissists and those with high self-esteem view their social world differently, and this greatly colors the way they think about themselves and others.
Narcissists view their social world as vertical. There’s a pecking order, and everyone else is either above or below them. There are no equals. Thus, the goal of the narcissist is to get ahead—by hook or by crook—and they use relationships to climb to the top.
Those with high self-esteem, however, view their social world as horizontal, where all members of the group are on an equal footing. They seek to get along, not get ahead. They build deep and intimate connections with other people. In other words, they view relationships as ends in themselves, not as a means to achieving supremacy or bolstering their fragile sense of self-worth.
In sum, narcissists view themselves as superior, whereas people with high self-esteem view themselves as worthy. Signs of both self-esteem and narcissism begin to appear around age seven. This is a time when children begin developing a global sense of self as well as the social perception skills to judge how they compare with others and how others view them. By adolescence, the jello of personality sets into either a self-esteem or narcissism mold.
To test this theory, the researchers conducted a long-term study in which they measured children’s personality and observed the ways their parents interacted with them. They found that children who developed high self-esteem also had parents who expressed fondness and affection for them but did not overly praise them. However, children who developed narcissistic tendencies had parents who showered them with praise and constantly compared them to other children who accomplished less than they did. In a nutshell, parental warmth led to self-esteem, whereas parental overvaluation led to narcissism.
Brummelman and his colleagues propose several interventions to help children develop high self-esteem while avoiding narcissistic tendencies. First, they suggest that parents and teachers praise children for their accomplishments without comparing them to their peers. The difference between “Great job!” and “You’re the best!” may be subtle. Yet, the first conveys worthiness, the core of self-esteem, whereas the second conveys superiority, the core of narcissism. Second, children should be nudged away from narcissistic thinking by encouraging them to think about ways that they are similar to their peers rather than superior to them.
A third intervention the researchers propose is aimed at children showing signs of low self-esteem. These children in particular need significant adults to help them properly interpret the remarks others make about them. People with low self-esteem, whether children or adults, tend to dismiss praise and dwell on criticisms. Elders need to reassure these children that they are worthy of the positive comments they receive and that they should take criticism as constructive feedback.
Proper care and feeding of children’s emerging sense of self puts them on the pathway toward healthy self-esteem—before the jello of personality sets.

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