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Thursday, May 22, 2014

Double standard: When Women Attack Men

I've often spoken on the double standard that exists when it comes to gender violence. We teach our boys when they are little to not hit girls, however, where is the dialogue to our daughters? By in large that conversation is missing and apparently I'm not the only one noticing.

I stumbled upon this article via the Chicago Tribune that echos my point:

File photo of singer Solange Knowles arriving for the Glamour Magazine Women of the Year Awards in New York
Caught on video, singer Solange Knowles’ attack on her brother-in-law, Jay Z, has been replayed countless
times on television and online. (CARLO ALLEGRI, REUTERS / May 12, 2014)

Double standard when women attack men

What if he had smacked her one?

She's going after him with fists and feet. What if he had defended himself in kind? Or what if he had been the one who attacked her without physical provocation?

Would it still be funny?

As we all know from a leaked elevator surveillance video that has been replayed countless times on television and online, that's not how it happened. Instead, rapper and businessman Jay Z deflected the blows and at one point caught a kicking foot in midair, but otherwise made no aggressive moves as his sister-in-law, singer Solange Knowles, whaled on him. Beyonce — his wife, her sister — watched without interfering, and an overmatched bodyguard tried to keep the peace.
Video of the one-sided brawl at a New York hotel first surfaced last week on TMZ. It has since been widely remarked upon and scrutinized. People have speculated on what made Solange go off like that. People have cracked jokes. But there has been little if any denunciation of the violence, nor are police known to be investigating.

Indeed, the world seemed ready to move on to the next oddity in the human carnival by the time the family released an opaque statement Friday (they're both sorry) and "Saturday Night Live" lampooned the fight in a sketch.

But what if he had hit her, whether in self-defense or aggression? Wouldn't we be having a markedly different discussion right now? Wouldn't police be involved? Wouldn't his reputation be in the toilet?

Yes. So, what's the difference?

We know the answer intuitively, even if it is not politically correct to say: Real men don't hit women. Not even in self-defense, unless maybe she holds a black belt or a baseball bat. Men are taught from boyhood to be mindful of their superior size and strength: Don't hit girls.

So Jay Z took his sister-in-law's abuse because there was, in a real sense, nothing else he could do.
And don't you think she knew that? Don't you think she was counting on it when she waded in there?

One is wary, as a man, of calling out double standards between the sexes. In the first place, men benefit from more double standards than we have space to count. In the second place, it would be specious to pretend the physical abuse of men by women is a problem anywhere near as ubiquitous as the physical abuse of women by men.

That said, it's hard to let this go without at least acknowledging this other double standard — and Solange's exploitation thereof.

Too bad police didn't raise the specter of an investigation, even if only to have it batted down. Might not have been the worst thing in the world if Jay Z's heavy-handed in-law had to at least momentarily contemplate explaining herself to a judge.

But that, of course, is wishful thinking. It won't happen — not only because police would be disinclined, but also because as a guy, Jay Z would in all likelihood be mortified by the very idea. Forget the family dynamic: To press charges because a woman hit you without injury would be to betray male pride. Might as well join a monastery. You could never show your face again.
So it bears repeating: There was nothing he could do but take it. And if that wasn't physically hurtful, it had to, at the very least, be profoundly humiliating.

Isn't it interesting how, 50 years into the modern feminist movement, with women represented at previously unthinkable strata in our national life, gender roles continue to define and constrain us, often in ways as subtle and unseen as they are abiding and real?

We will be thrashing that out for the foreseeable future. But we might make a small, albeit welcome change in that future if we reconsider what we have long told our little boys and expand it to include their sisters too.

Don't hit girls? No.

Don't hit at all.

Tribune Content Agency
Leonard Pitts is a columnist for the Miami Herald.
lpitts@miamiherald.com

 

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Thursday, May 1, 2014

Tips to Help You Recover from Surgery


Having surgery for many is a major decision even a simple outpatient procedure.  Anxiety builds and worry ensues.  Before you know it you’re a bundle of nerves wishing you had another option.  Healthcare as a whole has made great strides in keeping patients in the know about their care, still there are three simple things you can do to have a smooth recovery.  

Information is power.
Understand what’s next. Now that you’re preparing for surgery ask your surgeon and medical staff what to expect next. To walk you through each step of the process including the steps that you may not want to hear – tubes, drains, forceps, etc. Knowing that certain actions are required to bring about a desired result will help you understand that bruising may result and pain may occur. Without this discussion you could end up in unnecessary pain and disillusioned about your procedure.

Recognize the signs.
Once you’re recovering at home, it’s important to know what signs and symptoms need your immediate attention.  Some concerns can be addressed at your next doctor’s visit while others may require emergency intervention. Ask your team for proper protocol should you experience the following:
·       Extreme pain other than at the surgery site
·       Fever over 100 degrees
·       Swelling, redness or bleeding
·       Dizziness, ringing in the ears
·       Difficulty breathing or swallowing
·       Inability to concentrate or stay awake
·       Insomnia

Take Care of Your Body
The recovery process is one that needs your full cooperation. You must be patient with yourself and know your limits, while doing that which your surgical team has instructed you to do. 

·       Sleep. Your body needs the rest to recoup under normal circumstances it will especially need that time now.  It’s during this time that they body will repair itself.
·       Eat. You must remember to eat healthy foods to assist in the recovery process.  Food is fuel. Speak with the nutritionist/dietician about suggestions as some foods may interfere with medication.
·       Positive reinforcements.  Surround yourself with positivity. Doing visualization exercises, listening to motivational videos, reading, praying and mantras all help to reinforce your goal. Having mind and body all working in tandem in key.

    
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